Does he really care...?

About 5 years ago, my fiance decided to buy a boat with his dad and brother and didn%26#039;t even ask my input . Well, his dad was supposed to pay a month, brother a month, and him a month. The loan for this boat was taken out for 8 years. Well, his brother never paid anything, so it went every other month between his dad and him. His dad decided he couldn%26#039;t pay anymore, so we decided that it should be sold so we can have more money to do the things we want to do sooner which are trying to sell our house so we can get our debt paid off, build a house after the credit cards and loans are paid off, get married and have kids. We went down to his parent%26#039;s house and they got the boat out to clean it up for sale. I was inside talking to his mom and his dad comes in and says that my Fiance is not going to sell the boat and he will pay every other month with his brother (the one that was supposed to pay on it from the beginning but never paid anything) He didn%26#039;t even ask me!! What should I do?

Does he really care...?

Sounds like your fiance can%26#039;t stand up to his family. I know that feeling. Tell him that you won%26#039;t marry hi m until HE pays off his debt. My husband did the same thing with a flag pole. His dad wanted it, so they put it up ..a huge 20 ft flag pole. It was horrible and I hated it. When we moved and bought another house, his dad bought another damn flag pole and brought it over. I told him NO F****ing flag pole!!! and wouldn%26#039;t you know it, when I came home, there it was,cemented in the ground. No balls. Couldn%26#039;t stand up to his dad over a freaking flag pole. I still resent him for it.

Does he really care...?

Why wait on everything to be in order before getting married if you are living with him?? Finances, bills, debt is always gonna come around. If he makes you his wife, then you have more say in these things. Just think about it!

Does he really care...?

mixing business with family is always risky....and frnakly should be avoided. There are too many presumptions made by the parties. Based on the past exprience, I would sell the boat and cut off any financial ties. Saving your credit rating is the most important thing right now. Especially if you are looking to buy a home, car, etc.

Its the sad truth. Once bitten, twice....you%26#039;re a fool.